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5 Steps to Having Better Conversations as an Introvert

Once the conversation is started, here’s how to keep it going.

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BY Quora - 08 Feb 2019

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What are key points I should know about keeping conversations going as an introvert? originally appeared on Quora: the place to gain and share knowledge, empowering people to learn from others and better understand the world.

Answer by Kalina Silverman, Founder of Big Talk, on Quora:

The good thing is that the hardest part is getting the conversation started!

That can be accomplished with a simple question, like:

What are you passionate about?

What is something you want to be doing that you're not doing already?

Describe your favorite place in the world.

Once you get the conversation started, the key to keeping it going as an introvert, is doing what you do best, listening!

If you can focus on the person and their answers, and listen intently, it will be easy to make follow up questions to what they said. Something they said may also remind you about a story from your own experience. You can then bring it up and it will stimulate more response from them.

Also, don't be afraid of brief pauses. Some people have the internal fear of "What if we run out of things to say?" Remember that the pause can be an opportunity to allow the other person to move the conversation forward or can give you time to reflect on what to say next. Eventually, a natural flow will build.

In summary, here are the key points you should know about keeping conversations going as an introvert:

  1. Focus on listening intently to what the other person has to say.
  2. Ask follow up questions based on what they said.
  3. Share relevant stories from your own experiences.
  4. Don't be afraid of brief pauses.
  5. Relax into a natural flow.

This question originally appeared on Quora - the place to gain and share knowledge, empowering people to learn from others and better understand the world. You can follow Quora on Twitter, Facebook, and Google+. More questions:

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